Update and rants

[dosciencetoit]

Tomorrow night I'm leaving to go to the airport to fly down to Orlando for my half marathon for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society of Canada. If you want to sponsor me, you can go to my Team In Training page. Thanks to everyone who has sponsored me so far. It's for a great cause.

So when I'm stressed and angsty I end up on my soap box with rants that probably aren't that important. I figure this time I'll share briefly what I'm stressed and angsting about, and then the mini rant for today.

Stressors

1) That half marathon I mentioned above. I didn't do as well on the fundraising as I'd like to, and I've been sick, so I've missed the training runs this week.

2) I've got a grant due next Tuesday. I just have to edit it and insert the figures, but I have absolutely zero motivation because I've been sick. The same goes for lab work.

2) The doctors don't really know what's wrong with me. I've been having stomach problems and fatigue since October. I've been diagnosed with everything from low B12 levels and acid reflux to depression. None of the medication they've given me seems to be helping all that much. My doctor has finally refered me to a gastroenterologist, but it's going to be around two months before I'll see one. She also wonders if it might be endometriosis. I had a major freakout, because even though I don't want children now, I might in the future, and endometriosis is often associated with infertility. FML.

Mini-Rant

I've talked to other people about this (mainly fleshlycherry), but I sometimes question the use of warnings for fic. Some warnings are just plain idiotic. Don't warn for M/M relationships and gay sex if you're posting to a slash pairing community (i.e. deancastiel or padacklesrps). People posting and perusing these communities are expecting that. At the same time, I'd like to know before hand if the fic is going to contain rape or male pregnancy, because they are two things that squick me. But at the same time, one person's squick is another person's kink.

In all honesty, there's nothing wrong with rape fantasy, as long as it's between two consenting adults. Writing it in a fic isn't going to hurt people as long as the authors and readers understand that in real life consent is key. And if male pregnancy is what turns your crank, all the more power to you. I just really don't want to read about either.

Personally, I have kinks I know squick some of my friends, but I kind of feel like "Warning" people about these kinks or preferences puts them in a negative light. There's nothing wrong with liking what you like, as long as it's safe, sane and consensual (to borrow the motto for BDSM communities). "Warning" against kinks almost vilifies them. As if liking these things makes you wrong or immoral.

I kind of want to put forth that we should use the term "Contains" instead. It lets people know the content of the fic, including potential kinks, squicks and triggers, without making them seem like something we should be ashamed of.

Thoughts?

I feel a little better getting it all off my chest.

Comments

[notragicmercury.livejournal.com]

That's actually not a bad idea. If nothing else, acupuncture is supposed to be relaxing, and it certainly couldn't hurt. I've been on so many different medications to treat the symptoms I'm getting a little sick of it.

Funny thing is my doctor and I were talking about a similar story because she's pregnant right now. Aparently a friend of hers was going through fertility treatments and IVF, and nothing worked. Turned to eastern medicine and got pregnant rather quickly, then was pregnant again less than nine months later.

Thanks for the advice :)